It’s been brought to my attention that a few people don’t understand the hashtag #BlackGirlMagic, which is absurd to me since the phrase is self-explanatory. In case you’ve been living under a sound-proof rock then you’re very much aware of the injustices that have been taking place across the world due to skin color. Unfortunately, we still live in a world where a great number of people do no celebrate diversity. Yes, I know some of you all may argue the fact there are more African-Americans appreciating their “blackness” now more than ever before, but that’s the thing Black people are excepting and loving their “blackness,” not everyone.
Being a Black person in America in downright hard, and being a Black woman in America is even worse. Most often, when I walk into a room my presence isn’t even acknowledged, and if I am noticed it’s only because I’m being gawked at and being made into some type of inanimate sexual object. I’m subconsciously told all the time that I’m not intelligent enough to hold a decent conversation and that my opinion is only valued if I’m speaking about “Black Girl Friendly” topics such as: how to season food properly (no seriously it’s happened), or how I feel about white girls wearing Afro-centric hairstyles. I’m also subliminally told everyday by mainstream America that being Black is somehow a disadvantage, and not really something to be proud of.
I could literally go on for hours (or even days) about how being a black girl in America is hard, but quite frankly I’m tried of expressing this sentiment and so are many of my fellow black girls. For generations we’ve watched grand Black women not receive their just-do, so collectively, we decided we were going to stop caring about the narrative most of the world places on us, and start embracing the way many of us see ourselves. The media will have you believing that most Black girls hate themselves, or that we feel inadequate when compared to our racial counterparts, but I’m here to tell you that’s just not true. Most Black girls that I know LOVE the melanin in their skin, live for their curves and full lips, and are obsessed with their kinky curls! Many of us know that being a black girl rocks, and it’s something to celebrate not something to be ashamed of.
I desperately need people to understand that me embracing who I am as a black woman and using the hashtag #BlackGirlMagic does not mean that I have any derogatory feelings towards women of other ethnicities. I am very much aware that being a woman overall is magical no matter what race you are. However, there is a level of adversity that I experience as an African-American woman that women of other races couldn’t possibly identify with. Please understand that when I say #BlackGirlMagic it’s coming from a place of empowerment for Black women and girls, and telling them it is okay to love who you are. The phrase represents that even though society continually strips us of our originality that we still know our worth and what we contribute to this world. Stop apprehending Black women and girls that proudly use #BlackGirlMagic we are deserving of a hashtag that glorifies us.
*My 6 years old little cousin celebrating her chocolate skin!
Lastly, I want to say to all of my Black girls and women who constantly battle with the internal struggle of “am I good enough” to know yes you are. Being Black is pure awesomeness. We are queens, and have this je ne sais quoi that is just unmatched. It’s okay to love your skin, your big hair, and your bodacious features. Black women are intellectual, sexy, carefree, magnificent, unique, and most importantly…magical. And don’t you ever forget it!