Boundaries…please?


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Happy 2016 everyone! It’s crazy to think that 2016 is officially here, it feels like just a few years ago I was little kid fantasizing about how my life would be now. Anywho, with every new year, I make promises to myself about what I would like to work on the most. Yes, those “promises” are what most people would call new year resolutions, but over the years I’ve noticed that I tend to break nyrs, so calling them promises just helps me abide by them more.

As I’ve mentioned to you all previously, on last year I made a promise to myself that I would go on a journey of re-discovery (which turned out to be one of the best things I could have ever done). Well while on that journey I realize I struggle with the word boundaries immensely.

I realized this after having a conversation with basically a stranger about my love life. They kept on prying for more, and I found myself feeling uncomfortable but I didn’t quite know how to tell them stop. I mean they should have sensed something was off right? After this convo I felt slightly over-exposed, which was very unsettling even for me.

Following this incident I began noticing I continuously allow people to over-step there bounds with me. But the question is why? Well after over-analyzing this, I came to the conclusion that a lot of this has to do with the fact that I’m such an unfiltered person, which makes people feel like there’s not much that will offend me or can’t talk to me about. But ummm they’re wrong.

As honest as I am, I need others to understand it’s not their business to know all the complex details of my life. Yes, I may showcase my life on snapchat or tweet out my random thoughts, and have a lifestyle blog where I discuss my life BUT  I like to keep some things personal. And that is perfectly okay. Everyone is not entitled to knowing your business. You have the right to keep some things for yourself.

So for 2016 I’m making the promise to myself that if I feel someone is overstepping their bounds with me, to speak up. My life is not a reality show, and I’m not here to be anyone’s sole entertainment. If the person respects you they’ll understand, and if they “feel some type of way” then they weren’t worth having a conversation with in the first place.

Until Next Time,
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